Contents of this article
- 1.After breaking up
- 2. The manifestation of a man’s cruelty and ruthlessness
- 3.Are all men ruthless?
- 4. Why do men become so different and so heartless?
after breaking up
Generally speaking, boys behave unfeelingly after a breakup. In this case, they also want to give this relationship a thorough relationship and do not want this relationship to affect their future life. Men's thinking tends to be rational, so they will abide by their decisions after making a decision. This is also the fundamental reason why boys are more ruthless after a breakup. We can look at the reasons why boys become ruthless from the following aspects.
1. Most of the time, boys make decisions after careful consideration, so breaking up is also a decision after thinking.
In fact, most of the time, the decisions boys make in life are made after careful consideration. So you can understand that the other party has really thought a lot, and really feels that this relationship is hopeless, so the other party breaks up. In this case, the other party will often behave more ruthlessly without any hesitation. It can be understood that most boys are relatively ruthless and unwilling to let themselves make the same mistakes again.
2. If a boy feels very tired, he also wants to cut off unnecessary contacts immediately, so he will also behave ruthlessly.
In fact, we will find that everyone's feelings in this relationship are different. It is precisely because of this that many men behave unfeelingly. Most of the time, it is also because the other person feels tired in this relationship. . After breaking up, you can give yourself some space to think, so being ruthless at this time is for a better life.
3. After breaking up, some people may want to completely cut off contact, while others also want to give themselves a start.
In fact, whether it is considered from the perspective of a man's way of thinking or the pressure of a man's life, the reason why the other party becomes unfeeling is because he has no hope for this relationship. In this case, it's probably because the other person wants to completely cut off unnecessary contact with him. Doing so is actually conducive to giving himself a new beginning, and also helping him to say goodbye to these emotional baggage and start a new life.
The expression of a man’s cruelty and ruthlessness
A man's very heartless behavior
Men are very unfeeling. When most women are in love or getting married, they are willing to believe that men have a heart like a diamond. However, people have to accept the fact that people's hearts can be changed easily. Men are very unfeeling. Which ones?
A man’s very heartless behavior 1
First, you have found a new love, there is no need to be nostalgic for the old one.
"Who would have said so confidently that he wanted to leave if he hadn't already found the next one?" Yes, a man with a new love will start to pick on the shortcomings of his past partner and find the best excuse for his departure. Even a perfect woman cannot withstand criticism and will always find something wrong. After all, "no one is perfect."
My friend A Bin is a playboy, his family is very rich, he always thinks he is great. But in today's society, there are more women who love money, so it is easy for A Bin to find a girlfriend. In his own words, "It's a big deal, just give me money. What's the big deal." Every time we broke up, I couldn't see a sad expression on Bin's face. He was still secretly happy, thinking that being single was a kind of happiness. He could criticize all his ex-girlfriends, saying that it was someone else's fault. Looking at the nose was not the nose, looking at the eyes was not the eyes. There had never been a woman who met his conditions.
"If the old doesn't go, the new won't come." If a man changes his mind, a woman shouldn't look back. It's not worth shedding tears, because he is more ruthless than you. Just like I said about "A Bin", no matter how rich you are, you are not worthy of love. You are just a passerby in his life. His heart has never been "really moved" and there is no talk of love.
Second, when I look at the woman in front of me, I feel upset and want to run away.
Men's ruthlessness is not without reason. Sometimes it is because women "do not live up to expectations". When two people get along, they care for each other and grow together. The man is never a slave and the woman is a princess.
Last month, a reader confided to me that he met a woman he liked, but she was lukewarm towards him. Even on the days when he paid his salary, the woman would take the initiative to greet him and even have dinner with him. Then he handed over all his salary, and then his girlfriend returned to her lukewarm state. I said, "Such a relationship means she is cheating on you. Leave her as soon as possible." He said, "I love her very much and can't live without her."
A few days ago, this reader contacted me again and said, "We have broken up. I am very determined and have no hesitation." I know that he was deceived time and time again, which made him tired of love and felt that he was really a fool. , there is no need to be fooled again and again. Since there is no warmth and no hope when we are together, men will be upset. When you are alone, you will also think about your future and your future. Even if you run away, you must escape from the "shadow" of the past.
When a man has the idea of "escape" and breaks up, he must leave "heartlessly". You must know that a "cruel-hearted" man cannot be brought back by ten cows. Even if the woman kneels down to beg, he will not be tempted. He is already frightened by the woman, and even has fear in his heart.
Third, if you are hurt by love, you will see through love and think of "as soon as you let go, you will be fine".
A person has only one heart, and one heart can only hold one person. If the person in his heart hurts him, then his heart will gradually become cold and he will become indifferent to any emotional things. His indifference makes him seem very quiet, but his heart is transparent.
Someone said: Sometimes, we are like fish in a fish tank. We want to say a lot, but as soon as we speak, it turns into a string of ellipsis... In the end, everything remains silently in our hearts. When a person feels cold, he doesn't want to say anything. When breaking up, he replaces everything with the action of turning around. Saying "goodbye" means never meeting again; saying "is there still a chance" is too hypocritical; saying "take care of yourself" feels angry.
"Letting go is also love." This is a decision made after many hard struggles. Letting go is the final tenderness. When a man decides to let go, he is heartless, because there is no warmth in his hands and his heart feels cold.
Passionate people are always hurt by ruthless people! When breaking up, women should also be strong. Don't think that whoever leaves the other will not be able to survive. If it is your own fault, be brave enough to bear it. If it is a man's fault, be firm.
When two people are in love, two people are like two hedgehogs. They are hurt when they are together, and they miss each other a lot when they are not together. But in the end, you will find that every time you are hurt, it is actually a kind of growth. The more hurt you are, the stronger you become.
If you are heartless, don't blame me for being unintentional. Be a woman who can take things and let them go. Breaking up is actually a different beginning. From now on, cherish the one you are destined for!
A man’s very heartless behavior 2
1. Don’t care about your current situation
When a person gives up, he probably becomes the first stranger. After a man gives up, he will no longer participate in your life, and he will not care about what you are doing recently? How are you doing? He will try to forget everything about you and start his life over again.
Even if you two meet at a friend's party, he will not change his face towards you, let alone someone mentioning you. Men don't like to be sloppy in relationships, and they will stay away if they don't love you.
2. Start contacting other members of the opposite sex
When a relationship truly ends, I think it means starting a new relationship. If a man gives up on you, he will no longer consider getting back together with you, and there will be no need to stay away from other members of the opposite sex for you. He has entered the "singles" camp again and will get in touch with other members of the opposite sex again.
You will find that you slowly fade out of his life, and some unfamiliar faces will appear around him. He will try to let go of you, and then keep looking for the next relationship that suits him.
3. Deleted your contact information
What men hate most is that girls tend to disappear when they are angry, delete WeChat, QQ and contact information, and then shut down or ignore people. Because men like to bring things to the table, so men will not delete each other easily. Contact information, unless you really give up.
Many men will keep your contact information after breaking up, and they will feel that there is no need to be so extreme. But once he reaches this step, it can only be said that he was deeply hurt by the relationship and decided to give up completely.
4. Take the initiative to break up
Just like Brother Durian said at the beginning, men will not break up with women easily. Once they do, it means that they have seriously considered it, are sincere, and have really given up. No matter how hard you try to stay at this time, what can stay is the sympathy of the other party, and it is usually difficult to change the decision made by a man.
When a man loves you, his bottom line can be broken for you again and again. He can tolerate you, pamper you, and love you. However, if you are too careful, if you fall in love again, you will try to become indifferent. Have you experienced this too? Such a "he"?
A man’s very heartless behavior 3
1. I used to be devoted to you, but now I spend less and less time with you and spend every day with other people of the opposite sex.
In life, you will find that when a man makes a decision, he often does not change it easily. If one day, he has completely given up on you, it is often difficult to get back together with you. He who used to be with you every day has given up on you, so he will have more and more contact with other people of the opposite sex, because for him, he is now a single nobleman.
If you find that he slowly fades out of your life, and there are new members of the opposite sex appearing around him, and they chat very happily, but become more and more distant from you, it has already indicated that he is Slowly look for a relationship that really suits him.
2. Don’t care about your current situation, emotions, and feelings at all
There is a song called The Most Familiar Stranger. When he gives up on you, slowly, the relationship between you will become like a stranger. Because when this man decides to leave you, he will slowly fade out of your life, slowly stop paying attention to you, and will not want to know what you have been doing recently, your thoughts, your emotions, and whether you are happy. It's still sad, he doesn't care about these things at all, as if everything about you has nothing to do with him.
When a man no longer loves you, he will no longer spend his time and energy on you, and he will fade out of your life and stay far away from you.
3. Suddenly propose separation
Breaking up is very common in our lives, especially for girls. In many cases, girls often say break up, such as when they feel insecure or want to attract your attention... But generally men rarely say break up, but There is a characteristic when a man breaks up. Once he says breakup, he usually means breaking up. Before saying this to break up, he had actually thought about it countless times in his heart. He had already started thinking about it a long time ago (of course, the man I am talking about here is a real man). At this time, if you want Try to save him, but you will find it difficult to change his decision.
When a man loves you, he can put a lot of his energy and time on you, often pamper you, tolerate you, understand you, and love you. But if one day, he no longer loves you, he decides He often becomes particularly indifferent when he leaves you. Have you ever experienced such a thing?
4. Directly block or delete all your contact information
Generally speaking, when it comes to blocking or deleting contact information, most of these things are done by girls, but you will find that it is rare for men to block a person or directly delete their contact information. If they really do this, , then there is often only one situation: he does not love you that much, or does not love you at all.
You will find that many men will still have your contact information on their mobile phones after they separate, because they are unwilling to do this. But if a man has really reached this point, he has decided to leave you completely. , has completely given up. Deep in his heart, he has already thought about leaving you countless times.
Are all men ruthless?
Not all men are necessarily heartless. You have to see clearly whether he is real or fake. Some men just want you to be happy and want you to give up, so they do it to show you. Men who become very heartless usually have these 5 symptoms 1. When I love you, you mean the world, but if I don’t love you, you are nothing Someone It is said that women are the most fickle, but in fact this is nothing compared to the ruthlessness of men. In a relationship, a woman goes from shallow to deep, and in the end she falls in love so much that she can't help herself. But men are different. I will be very nice to you at first, and will surprise you in various ways, but once I catch you, my attitude will gradually change, and I will eventually become lukewarm towards you. It will only make you anxious and uncomfortable. When a man loves you, he will hold you in his hands for fear of falling. But once he stops loving you, he becomes ruthless in an instant. In his heart, you are nothing. 2. Yesterday I was still in love with you, but today I let you go When women face a man’s sweet words, they are always unable to extricate themselves, and in the end they are so easily persuaded by the man. . In a relationship, women will not be able to stand the love words of men. Slowly you will lose your principles and bottom line. This is also a common problem among all women, they only stay on the surface of love. For some men, although they say they like you every day, they are just words without any actual actions. But once he decides that he doesn't love you anymore, he may have been lingering with you yesterday, but he will let you go today. He also calls it a beautiful name, saying that he is a prodigal, and he will not be happy in the end if he is with me. It will only delay you with such nonsense, and put all the responsibilities on you. 3. I won’t make you happy anymore If a man really loves you, he will tolerate any of your little tempers and shortcomings, because he cares about you and is afraid of losing you. However, if a man doesn't love you anymore, his thoughts will no longer be on you. Even if you are unhappy and hope to be comforted by him, he will not behave anymore. He won't coax you again and again, because he doesn't want to waste time and energy on you. No matter what you want to do, he won’t ask about it anymore. Even if you want to leave, he won’t keep you anymore. 4. If you are angry with you, he will sleep with him We all know that in real life, some women sometimes pretend to be angry in order to get the attention of men. If you create tension or emotion in a man's heart, a man who loves you will be with you at all costs. But once a man doesn't love you anymore, he will become very heartless and he won't take it seriously anymore. Even if you are really angry, he won't care at all. You even do what you should do, play his games, sleep with him, and don't care about your feelings at all. If a man can do such heartless things, he means he doesn’t love you from the bottom of his heart. The sooner a woman knows, the better. 5. I will never contact you again, keep my word In a relationship, women sometimes tend to be soft-hearted and not cruel. But men are different. Once a man decides that he doesn't love you anymore, he will become very heartless. He may be chatting and laughing with you one second, but he will become merciless the next second. It will delete all contact information between you, and even disappear directly from your sight, as if nothing happened. Even if you are sad and begging, it will not help in the end. Are men very heartless? 2 Men who are heartless will regret breaking up 1. Deep love and deep hatred. Without unforgettable love, how can there be unforgettable hatred? , if this man was particularly unfeeling when he broke up with you, one of the reasons is that during this relationship, you did something that made him give up, and you made him feel that you were not the woman suitable for him. You are a woman who is not worthy of his love, so he will say these words to you without hesitation. But when he is unfeeling towards you, he is actually bleeding in his heart. After all, he loves you very strongly. So when he said these words to you, when he saw you sad, he definitely regretted it in his heart. 2. If the person you fall in love with is a scumbag, and you have paid more in this relationship, then when he breaks up with you heartlessly, you will never Regretful, after all, if this kind of man has not found his next target now, he will never be so ruthless to you, and he will never break up with you cruelly. Is it easier to redeem a man who is more ruthless? Is it easier to redeem a man who is more ruthless? In fact, this also depends on the specific reasons. If this man's unfeeling for you comes from the bottom of his heart, then no matter how humble you are, it is absolutely impossible to pray for this love. If he is hurt by you, , that’s why I say these heartless words to you and do these heartless things to you. I believe that after you change and you can be honest with him, this man will never be calm in his heart. After all, he I still have love for you. On the road of love, it does not mean that the person who seems cruel on the surface will not love you, nor does it mean that the person who always says sweet words to you will love you. Are men very heartless? 3 Will a man come back to you after he breaks up with you? In fact, no matter what the reason for the breakup is, it is possible for them to get back together again. They will say some very heartless words to you when they break up, because at that time they think they have no feelings for you, but what they don’t know is that they actually still love you in their hearts, but at that time they feel that they Your relationship is too dull, that's why I want to break up with you, so some boys are very heartless if they just say they want to break up with you. They may come back to you, and they must have confidence in themselves. My boyfriend is very heartless when he proposes to break up with you Is this relationship worth saving? If a boy is very heartless when he proposes to break up with you, it may be that this boy wants you to give up because he Something happened around you, and these things are beyond his ability to handle and solve, so he wants to break up with you and let himself grow up to the point where he can become a person who can protect you, and then he will come back to you. For For this kind of relationship, you can save it, and it is worth saving, because he always thinks of you and will never forget you. It is also possible that he really wants to break up with you, because in his opinion The relationship between you is no longer something he wants to remember, and he doesn't want to argue with you for a while after breaking up. He will choose to say some very unfeeling words when he breaks up with you, so that you can stop being with him. Remembering him, it would be meaningless to restore such a relationship. It’s very heartless for a boy in first love to break up with his girlfriend In fact, a boy in first love will be very heartless to break up with his girlfriend, just because this is his first time falling in love, even if it means breaking up. When I say something, I don’t know what to do, so I just say it very tactfully, which makes my girlfriend sound very heartless. Regarding first love, everyone will feel at a loss when talking about their first love, because in order to turn what they have seen and what they have said to their friends into reality, they have to do a lot of things first. Once, it became obvious that I was very worried, afraid that I would not do anything well every time, and I had promised to surprise the girls, but in the end they became frightened, and they were actually very worried about their First loves are cherished very much. They don’t want to break up with their girlfriends for many reasons, but because they don’t want to break up. This is their first time falling in love, so when they want to break up, they don’t know what to say. You have to say it tactfully, but you are afraid that you won't understand, which will make the other party feel that this boy is very unfeeling. Why are boys so heartless when it comes to breaking up? If a boy distinguishes his feelings very clearly, then when they feel that they have no feelings for their girlfriend, they will They will speak out very directly, and they will not be afraid that you will not be able to bear it if you hear it. Moreover, they treat their feelings very straightforwardly. If a girl confesses to him and he doesn't like it, he will tell her directly. Rejection will not lead to any feelings. This kind of boy will not be merciful when breaking up with others. He will directly say what needs to be said. Although it makes others feel very heartless, this is the method. It is also the best. There will be no entanglement or any trouble later. After breaking up, if you find a girl again, there will be no such thing as being entangled by your ex.
Why are men so different and so heartless?
1. Indifference. When your man changes his mind, his first characteristic will definitely be indifference. Indifferent to you, indifferent to your friends, and indifferent to everything around you. Even if you work overtime late, he won't call you to say hello, let alone expect him to pick you up downstairs at your company. In short, when you hope that he will care about you, you will suddenly find that he disappears. 2. Drowsiness. You used to feel very sorry for him because he always had so little rest time; but now you don't understand why he only likes to sleep when he comes home? When you are still busy with housework, he is already lying on the bed; when you want to chat with him, he tells you that he wants to sleep. For him after his change of heart, home is just a place to sleep. 3. Silence. Some men are not good at hiding things by nature. When his heart no longer belongs to you, any words between you become redundant to him. Especially your nagging made him feel irritated, so he became silent. Don't doubt it, when he becomes impatient with your nagging, when he starts to be silent towards you, his heart is no longer with you. 4. Anger. In the past, he was definitely not easily angry. Even if you made a big mistake, he would touch your head with pity and call you naughty. But when he changes his mind, any small mistake on your part will become the reason for him to become furious, even if the rice is a little bit cooked. For you, there is nothing that can make him not angry. 5. Unfeeling. When a man's heart changes to the point of hopelessness, ruthlessness will become their only expression. Otherwise, what kind of expression do you think he would have left? In fact, when a man becomes ruthless, the level is definitely no less than Li Mochou's hatred of the world. However, the target of his ruthlessness will not be anyone else, but only you. 6. Forget. When a man loves you, his memory will be very good, and he will remember every little anniversary between you. However, when your man changes his mind, his memory will slowly decline. The numbers that were once etched in his life began to slowly disappear. Even if he remembers some important days, he would rather forget them. 7. Play dumb. In fact, it is easy to be indifferent. The first key is to learn to play dumb. For example, if he knows you are very tired after get off work, he will pretend not to see it; for example, if he knows your doubts clearly, he will pretend to be innocent. It is said that men are little boys who never grow up, especially when it comes to pretending to be stupid. They definitely have a natural talent. 8. Busy. Have you ever noticed that suddenly starting from a certain day, your man starts to be unusually busy? Not only do you need to work overtime today, but you need to socialize tomorrow, and even the day after tomorrow will be filled with meetings and studies. You find that the time that once belonged to you has been erased from the calendar by his busyness. It doesn't matter whether he is really busy or not. What is important is that he will no longer be busy around you. 9. Selfishness. Love is great and can tolerate everything. Therefore, when there is love between two people, there is every possibility of happiness. However, when love disappears, when your man no longer loves you, all tolerance and forgiveness will disappear without a trace. He will forget your rights for his own benefit, and he will work hard to do everything just to satisfy his own selfishness. 10. Strange. After love disappears, what will be left between you? Besides being strange, it is still strange. Don't expect that you can still be friends. Once a man changes his mind, there is no reason to completely forget how good you were and how happy and smiling you were. Want to be friends with him again? That is impossible. For him, you will just become strangers
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